To show children their feelings are accepted and respected, you can:
1. Listen quietly and attentively
2. Acknowledge their feelings with a word
3. Give the feeling a name
"That sounds frustrating!"
4. Give them their wishes in fantasy
"I wish I could make the banana ripe for you right now!"
All feelings can be accepted.
Certain actions must be limited.
"I can see how angry you are at your brother. Tell him what you want with words, not fists."
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen
Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish